Things that change when you get married
Updated: Jul 25, 2019
It's a funny sort of concept; what changes when you get married? On the surface it probably looks like nothing; you live in the same house with the same friends and have the same hobbies and fun times together. People ask you in those first few weeks after your wedding day how married life is and you laugh and say 'much the same!' I mean, in all honesty, it gets a little annoying.
We've just celebrated two years since saying 'I do' and I wanted to reflect on some of the ways that really do change.
A strange sort of contentment
You're no longer searching for something. You can relax on the sofa on a Friday or Saturday evening knowing that you'll have a lovely evening and don't need to be partying like it's 1999. You can be totally and utterly yourself with someone and they love you just the way you are (most of the time!)
You work differently - you're in this together
I'm less of a bull in a china shop. I try and think if something works for both of us. You seek out ways to make someone else happy and feel satisfied with that. It's not all about you anymore.
In sickness and in health really does ring true
Never before have I relied on someone other than my parents like I did to my husband in our first year. We tested the 'in sickness and in health' more than I ever hope to again! It's reassuring knowing that you can rely and depend on someone in that way. Although, I don't want to test this too many times!
You still argue, but there's less fight in it!
An argument doesn't result in you storming off. It's just not worth it. You definitely reach a resolution and are both prepared to compromise a little more.
Obviously you can still have childish moments, but I think you do see things from someone else's perspective a little more!
There you go. The love runs a little deeper once you tie the knot and you feel very much part of a team; the winning team. There's a lot that doesn't change too; I mean, they still leave the loo seat up and their pants can still be found lying on the floor!
That said, it's still important to work at it. I liked this quote I stumbled across:
“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”